The advent journal from our TikTok videos
Self Love Workbook for Women Advent Calendar: Your 24-Day Journey to Self-Worth, Self-Care, and Self-Compassion
One door a day from December 1: a short read, one affirmation and four questions to answer, in about five minutes.
- 24 doors, Dec 1 to 24
- 5 minutes a day
- 100-page paperback
Paperback, Kindle and audiobook, with free bonus material.
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As shared in our TikTok videos
Is this the advent journal from our TikTok videos?
Yes. The navy cover with the woman in the Santa hat, the red and green title and the pages with one highlighted line: this is Self Love Workbook for Women: Advent Calendar by Olivia K. Renner. In the stories it is "my advent journal", and every door is one day of December, so Door 5 is December 5. If the caption said Self Love Workbook for Women Advent Calendar by Olivia K. Renner, you are in the right place.
It is a real, published book: a 100-page paperback, 6 x 9 in, ISBN 979-8264104220, published September 6, 2025, and also a Kindle ebook and an audiobook.
How this journal advent calendar works
This is a self care advent calendar in book form: no little boxes, just four pages for each day from December 1 to 24. Open one door a day, in order. It is a reflective journal for a few quiet minutes, and every door follows the same four steps.
Read a short essay
Each door opens with its title and two short pages, written to you warmly and plainly. Door 1 is Welcome to Your Journey: A Gentle Beginning; later doors take on the not enough story, the shoulds, comparison and the gentle no.
Page 4 Keep one affirmation
The second page ends on the door's affirmation, set between two lines, with one of the book's line drawings under it. Door 1 reads: I am worthy of this journey and open to receiving self-love.
Page 5 Answer one big question
The third page is a single question with a full page of lines. Door 1 asks: What does a "gentle beginning" to self-love truly mean to you right now?
Page 6 Then three small ones
The fourth page holds three shorter questions with a few lines each, for the days when one honest sentence is all there is time for.
Page 7
24 doors, 24 affirmations, 96 journal prompts and 24 line drawings in 100 pages.
The 24 doors, December 1 to 24
Door 1 to 24, one for each day of December up to Christmas Eve. These are the door titles and affirmations exactly as the book prints them.
All 24 doors: an affirmation advent calendar
- 1Door 1. Welcome to Your Journey: A Gentle BeginningDecember 1I am worthy of this journey and open to receiving self-love.
- 2Door 2. Unpacking the "Not Enough" StoryDecember 2I am inherently worthy, just as I am, and I release the story of 'not enough'.
- 3Door 3. Recognizing Your Inner Critic: A First GlimpseDecember 3I observe my inner critic with curiosity and choose to listen to my inner wisdom.
- 4Door 4. The Weight of "Shoulds": Releasing the BurdenDecember 4I release the burden of 'shoulds' and choose what truly serves my well-being.
- 5Door 5. Understanding Your People-Pleasing HeartDecember 5My needs are valid, and it is safe for me to prioritize my well-being.
- 6Door 6. The Exhaustion of the Comparison TrapDecember 6I celebrate my unique journey and find joy in my own growth.
- 7Door 7. Your Body: A Sanctuary, Not a ProjectDecember 7My body is a cherished sanctuary, and I treat it with kindness and gratitude.
- 8Door 8. The Power of a Gentle "No": First Steps to BoundariesDecember 8I honor my limits and compassionately say 'no' to protect my well-being.
- 9Door 9. Listening to Your Energy: The Signs of BurnoutDecember 9I lovingly listen to my body's wisdom and honor my energy needs.
- 10Door 10. The Myth of Perfection: Embracing Your ImperfectionsDecember 10I embrace all parts of myself with kindness, knowing my imperfections make me uniquely me.
- 11Door 11. Your Values: Guiding Lights for Self-LoveDecember 11I align my actions with my core values, creating a life that feels authentic and fulfilling.
- 12Door 12. Cultivating Your Inner Compass: Trusting Your GutDecember 12I trust my inner wisdom and allow my intuition to guide me.
- 13Door 13. The Practice of Gentle Self-ForgivenessDecember 13I forgive myself with compassion, release the past, and embrace my growth.
- 14Door 14. Mindful Moments: Finding Calm in ChaosDecember 14I embrace mindful moments, finding peace and presence in each breath.
- 15Door 15. Your Unique Strengths: Celebrating What You AreDecember 15I recognize and celebrate my unique strengths, knowing they make me valuable and capable.
- 16Door 16. The Joy of Authentic ConnectionDecember 16I cultivate authentic connections where I am seen, accepted, and loved for who I am.
- 17Door 17. From Scarcity to Abundance: Shifting Your PerspectiveDecember 17I embrace abundance, appreciating all the blessings present in my life.
- 18Door 18. Creating Your Own Sanctuary: Space for Self-CareDecember 18I create and honor my personal sanctuary, a sacred space for my well-being.
- 19Door 19. Embracing Your Unique Path: Releasing ComparisonDecember 19I joyfully walk my unique path, trusting my journey and celebrating every step.
- 20Door 20. Gentle Discipline: The Power of ConsistencyDecember 20I embrace gentle discipline, making small, consistent choices that nourish my soul.
- 21Door 21. Releasing the Need for External ValidationDecember 21My worth is inherent; I validate myself from within.
- 22Door 22. Your Desires: Giving Voice to Your True SelfDecember 22I honor my deepest desires and lovingly pursue what truly brings me joy.
- 23Door 23. Celebrating Your Growth: Looking Back, Moving ForwardDecember 23I celebrate my incredible growth and honor the journey of self-love.
- 24Door 24. Your Radiant Self: Continuing the JourneyDecember 24I am my radiant self, empowered to continue my journey of self-love every day.
Look inside this self care advent calendar
Real pages from this self care advent calendar for women, printed in black and white, with one line drawing for every door.
- Real pages from the book
- 4 pages a door
- Black and white interior
Twelve places in the book
- Pages 4 and 5
Door 1 opens with a short read and ends on its affirmation and a drawing.
- Pages 6 and 7
Then one big question with a page of lines, and three small ones.
- Page 17
Door 4 sets down the weight of the shoulds.
- Page 21
Door 5 is about the yes that was meant as a no.
- Page 22
Its big question: when do you say yes when you want to say no?
- Page 25
Door 6 trades someone else's highlight reel for your own steps.
- Page 29
Door 7: your body as a sanctuary, not a project.
- Page 33
Door 8 practices a gentle no, starting small.
- Page 41
Door 10 on imperfection, with a mended bowl.
- Pages 84 and 85
Door 21's affirmation: My worth is inherent; I validate myself from within.
- Page 95
Door 23 asks what you would tell the woman who opened Door 1.
- Page 97
Door 24 ends its essay with a sunrise.
A few lines from the book
Copied exactly as they are printed, with the page they come from.
this story is not you.
Door 2, page 9Remember, a "no" to one thing is almost always a powerful "yes" to yourself
Door 8, page 33your inherent worth is not conditional on being flawless
Door 10, page 41what if, instead, we asked: what pain was I carrying then?
Door 13, page 53Your journey is uniquely yours, unfolding at its own perfect pace
Door 6, page 25You are inherently worthy, you are deeply loved, and you are undeniably capable
Door 24, page 97
Who it is for
- You say yes when you mean no, and December is when it shows most.
- You want something in the countdown to Christmas that is only yours and takes five minutes, not an evening.
- You like to think on paper, a few lines at a time.
- You want a self love journal with a shape: one door a day, 24 days, then done.
- You are buying it for her: a sister, a best friend, your mom or your daughter.
Who it is not for
- You want a box of 24 little gifts or beauty samples. This is a book you write in.
- You want a long program with daily homework. Each door is four short pages.
- You are going through something heavy right now. Please reach out to someone you trust or to a professional first. In the US you can call or text 988 at any time.
This workbook is a tool for quiet self-reflection. It is not a substitute for professional support. If a question brings up more than you want to sit with today, skip it and come back another day.
A self care gift for her, ready by December 1
An advent calendar for women that is not makeup.
Most advent calendars for women are boxes of samples. This one gives her something that is only hers: one door a day, a few quiet minutes and a line to keep. If you are looking at self care gifts for women this Christmas, it is small enough to post and personal enough to mean something.
From a sister, for the one who always says yes. From a best friend, after a year that asked a lot of her. From a daughter, for her mom. From a mom, for a grown daughter in her first busy job.
Give it before December 1, so Door 1 can be that day. If it arrives later, nothing is lost: the doors are numbered, not dated, so she can begin on any day and simply keep going.
Ship it to your own address, or straight to hers.
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Free bonus material
Page 3 of the book has a QR code and a short link to free bonus material: 24 short daily modules for your phone, one for each door, and extra exercises, starting with a core values exercise. As the book's listing describes it, the extras also include 100 morning affirmations to pick from, a thought diary, a letter to your younger self and the Act As If technique.
The bonus page asks for your email address, and the daily modules need a free account in a learning app. Nothing on this page asks for anything.
About Olivia K. Renner
Olivia K. Renner writes guided journals for people who think a lot and say little, turned into prompts you can actually finish. She likes quiet places that slow a person down: an early lake, an old garden, one candle on a weeknight. No magic and no quick fixes, just structure, honesty and room to write.
Questions about this self love advent calendar
What is a self love advent calendar?
A self love advent calendar is a countdown to Christmas with one small act of self-love behind each day. Self Love Workbook for Women: Advent Calendar is one in book form: 24 doors from December 1 to 24, and every door is four pages, with a short essay, one affirmation with a line drawing, one big journal question and three smaller ones.
Self love vs self care: what is the difference?
Self care is what you do for yourself: rest, a quiet corner, a gentle no. Self love is how you see yourself while you do it. The book's subtitle names three parts, self-worth, self-care and self-compassion, and the doors move between them: Door 2 and Door 21 on your worth, Door 9 and Door 18 on looking after your energy and your space, Door 10 and Door 13 on meeting yourself with kindness and forgiveness.
Is this the advent journal from our TikTok videos?
Yes. The advent journal in our TikTok videos is Self Love Workbook for Women: Advent Calendar by Olivia K. Renner, the book with the navy cover and the woman in the Santa hat. Other self love workbooks are popular too, so look for the words Advent Calendar and Olivia K. Renner's name on the cover. It is a real 100-page book, available as a paperback, a Kindle ebook and an audiobook.
How long does each door take?
About five minutes, if you read the two short pages and answer the small questions. The big question can take longer on the days you want it to. There is one door a day, so nothing piles up.
When should I give it, and can she start late?
Give it before December 1 if you can, so Door 1 can be that day. If it arrives later, she can still begin: the doors are numbered, not dated, so any day can be her Door 1, and she can go at her own pace from there.
What is a good self care gift for my sister, best friend or mom?
A good self care gift is one she will actually use and that is about her, not about her house or her skin. This book gives her 24 short moments in December that are only hers, with questions about saying no, comparison and what she wants for herself. It is small, it posts easily, and you can send it straight to her.
Is self love selfish?
Not in the way this book means it. The Door 5 affirmation reads: "My needs are valid, and it is safe for me to prioritize my well-being." Door 22, Your Desires: Giving Voice to Your True Self, starts from the wishes that so often get waved away as selfish and gives them a page of their own.
How do I stop people pleasing and say no without guilt?
The book does not promise a quick fix, but it gives you a place to start. Door 5 looks at why yes comes out so fast and suggests a small first step: saying "Let me check my schedule and get back to you," instead of an automatic yes. Door 8, The Power of a Gentle "No", asks you to begin small, with low-stakes situations, and practice there first.
Who is Olivia K. Renner?
Olivia K. Renner writes guided journals for people who think a lot and say little: Shadow Work Journal and Workbook 7 in 1, Becoming the Best Mom Ever! Advent Calendar for the Mom to Be, and this self love advent calendar. Her journals are published by Kalderno.
Open Door 1 on December 1.
Get it for yourself, or send it to someone who always says yes. To write in it, choose the paperback. The Kindle edition is a print replica edition, and the audiobook reads the doors aloud.
We publish this book. As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.
This workbook is for self-reflection and is not a substitute for professional support.
